If you ever interacted with a narcissist, a sociopath and a psychopath, you probably notice that they do not feel you, their interaction with you is very robotic. I am talking mainly about the cluster B type of the personality on the higher spectrum. Its because they are technically the robots. They have very low to dead consciousness, they lack of empathy and they lack of emotional intelligence. They can learn from normal people on what to say or how to react and then mirror them, but what they can´t mimic is the vibe and the real emotion. No matter how hard those individuals try, empathy is something you can´t fake. You either have it or not. And thats why they seem so robotic. Because no matter how hard they try to mimic normal people, they can´t feel like normal people.
When the disordered person of cluster B type of personality is interacting with you, they are reading your facial non verbal reaction and body language. They do not feel you, but they can read from your face and body and then assign the particular expression to the correct emotion. For example, when you smile, they do not feel happiness with you, they only see the facial expression "smile" and then they assign this smile to their assumption of you being happy and after they evaluate your feeling, they will react by laughing too. Did you notice that these disordered individuals never laugh simultaneously with you, they always laugh after you. Its because they need to first evaluate your expression to be able to mirror you. For example, when they see you cry, they do not use empathy to feel your pain, they do not understand how you feel, but they see your tears and those tears help them to assign the emotions and let them know you are sad. Then they know how to react - trying to tell you some encouraging words to comfort you. But they don´t feel those words. They only saw somewhere on TV or around them in real life that normal people comfort crying people so they mimic it too to appear normal. However, when you pay an attention to the way they comfort you, you will realize that they know exactly how to manipulate you by saying the right words, but you will feel their comforting is very robotic, dishonest and cold. They can´t care less about your pain because they do not feel you. They only need to blend into the society tricking the people they are normal.
This knowledge can give you some advantages in face to face interaction with narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths. Confuse them by not having any facial expression during the face to face communication. Do not give them any hint about how you feel. This way they will be not able to read your facial expression and this will take away their power to create any strategy against you. You will catch them completely out of track, they will do not know what to think about you, how to react and how to manipulate you. This way they will be also not able to trigger you as they will be not able to analyze what triggers work the best on you. Stay emotionless, without any facial expression and try to move as less as possible not showing any body language.
You can use similar technique also in online communication. Do not use any emoticons that will depict your current mood. Use very short emotionless sentences.
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