Would you like to accelerate a manifestation of the justice after the narcissistic abuse and also to accelerate a manifestation of your good dharma so good stuff starts to happen to you after the times full of drama, deceives and crazy making the narcissist in your life dragged you through? Here are few tips on how to help the Universe make it happen:
The
internet is full of advices on how to take a revenge on the
narcissists, how you need to pretend that you are happy in front of the
narcissists or how you need to become millionaire to piss the
narcissists of and make them envious. These techniques are wrong as you will only give more fuel to the narcissists but it will have zero benefits for you. Before you take any action, always ask yourself a question: What exactly will be a positive outcome from this for me? Will it change my life for better? If the answer is that you will not gain anything positive out of your actions, it´s a waste of your time to take those actions. Fighting with the narcissists is like trying to quench the fire with a gasoline. They are crazy and they will bring you to mental institution too if you allow them. Protect your sanity and energy so you can unstuck and move in a right direction with your life. Fighting the narcissists is one way ticket to "Crazyland". Always check your ego so you make sure you do not operate from your ego but you do the actions only for you to better your situation and not for proving anything to anybody else or to only piss of someone else. Always ask yourself a questions: Do I do this action for me or I am doing it for someone else? Do I do this action for the right reason?
If you have the need to prove your worth to disordered narcissistic people and play their sick and nonsense mind games, it means you do not need to prove them your worth (you are already worthy since the first day on this planet), you need to do your inner work, you need to work on self love. The fight with the narcissists will not help you with your feelings of not being worthy. The narcissists know you are worthy very well. Its their pathological envy and insecurities that make them to pretend in front of you that they see you unworthy. They know you are worthy to the level they are envious about how worthy you are. Thats actually the real reason why they abused you and attacked your self-esteem in the first place. The real reason was their insecurities about your worthiness because they feel unworthy.So, the only person in this game who need to realize you are worthy its you. The narcissists already know this.
Re-shift the focus from the narcissists and turn inwards to work on your unhealed parts of your soul. Work on yourself because there is nothing to work on your relationship with the narcissists. When you argue with the narcissists, you do not argue with a healthy people, you argue with their disorder. The narcissists can only trigger you if you have wounds. The narcissists are like the sharks, they can smell blood from miles away. If you are bleeding, you are a prey. By healing your wounds you stop bleeding and thus you stop to be prey therefore there will be no more attraction between the predator and the prey. The moment you stop to be a prey, the predator has no business to be with you. They will swim away. Instead of being their complice in cutting your wounds wide open, work for yourself on healing those wounds. Stop playing the victim role as you are taking your power away by playing such a role. You are powerful being, you just have to realize this.
Playing games with the narcissists will only drag you on the low level just where the narcissists are. And this is not an effective tactic neither nice place to be. The correct tactic is not to stay in a low vibrations chasing your own tail for years being stuck in the "Crazyland" but rather to make everything in order to pull yourself towards higher vibrations because thats the level where no narcissists can follow you as they are low vibration entities with lot of darkness inside of them. The moment you pull yourself up to the higher vibrations, the narcissists will automatically disappear from your life.
The narcissists have a crab mentality. They will always try to pull the victims back into the bucket when they see that the victim is trying to escape the bucket. Their greatest trick is that they create this illusion that you have to stay in the bucket with them. They fear that you would go to the better place and they will still stay in the dark bucket. Be brave, do not let the emotions to over-write your logical thinking. The narcissists are master manipulators and their specialty is provoking and triggering emotions in other people. Your ticket out of the bucket is to stay calm, collected and cold and stop playing their game. They know very well that they are able to manipulate other people only when people are over-emotional thus they use provocation as a tactic to make the victims over-emotional. People who put the logical thinking first and stay calm and collected are much more effective to deal with the narcissists and removing themselves from the narcissist´s realm. Put your emotions aside because war with the narcissists is not the right place to operate from your emotions. Now its the time to think solely through your brain in a very cold way. Make a plan, then proceed with the plan like a solder. Do not let your emotions to be used against you like a weapon. There is no narcissists standing in your way, its actually you standing in your own way by getting embroiled in the fantasy, web of lies and illusions of the narcissists and the element that keeps you on the loop is your emotional reactions. Listen to your intuition and logical thinking how to get out of the cycle without use of your emotions.
Rather than spending years in a cycle of nonsense fights with the disordered narcissists that leads you nowhere and with no positive results for you, stop to focus on the narcissists and start to focus solely on pulling yourself to the higher vibrations. Start to work on yourself and on your life. Do everything to make your life better each day. Do what makes you happy rather than what makes you miserable. Do every activity that makes you feel good. Focus on healing your wounds and your "inner child". Stop being a complice to the narcissists of your own misery. They use your anger stage of healing just to keep you in the same place on the loop, they trigger you over and over again on purpose because they know its the only way to keep you with them on the level of low vibrations ("I will just to prove this one point to the narcissist... just to justify this one reason .... just to prove one more point .... just to ....") This would go on and on forever as the narcissists do not have limits so the limits must be set by you. The more they manage to take you off your balance and make you emotionally lose it, the more you will be stuck in the narcissistic web. The only purpose for the narcissists to keep you in this situation is to become their source of negative narcissistic supply so they can feed of your negative reaction, your negative emotions give them fuel and energize them while it is exhausting you from your life force. And thats the only reason why they do it. To regulate their own emotions through you. They are fishing for the energy because they are the emotional and energy vampires. If you keep fighting this nonsense war, one day you wake up and you realize that there is no more time left, that you spent years on fighting a nonsense instead of living.
You do not need to even move finger to proceed with a revenge on the narcissists. They are their own revenge. They have personality disorder. They are not real, their world is an illusion. They are basically non existent entities. They left their minds, souls and bodies years ago and what you see is only an empty shell with a mask on. They have been traumatized in their childhood and they never managed to heal and now they are these empty shells with voids inside of their souls and no emotions in their hearts always operating from place of lack hiding behind some surreal nonexistent mask they created in their childhood out of their imagination because they are full of overwhelming shame, insecurities and fears not being capable to love others and receive love. What possibly can be worst karma than this? They also have compulsive repetition syndrome which keeps them stuck forever in the hamster´s wheel unable to change, mature, grow, heal and move on. They do not need your punishment or revenge. They are already very miserable. Move on and thank to the Universe that you have been blessed to be the empath and to have capacity to love and heal. Not everybody on this planet get this privilege.
Your anger is used against you like a weapon. Are you willing to lose your life and health because of your anger or you would rather want to experience good health and have a chance for a better life through your peace? When you keep to stare into the dark abyss long enough, it can happen that one day the abyss will start to look inside of you. Monsters are always being created by monsters. Make sure you will not become a monster in the process. Always remind yourself who you truly are behind all of that anger and hate. When you let your negative emotions to overhelm you, slowly you will become like them. Always remind yourself that you are a light, you belong to light and make sure the narcissists will not change you into the dark entity. We always attract what we focus the most on. If you focus mostly on the negative energy, you will attract the negative energy. If you focus mostly on positive energy, you will attract more positive energy. The goal of your healing journey should be reducing the negative energy so you make space more of the positive energy to come to your life. That´s the only right way to go. Staying in the low and dark energies will not bring any positive results.
If you chose light, peace and good life, you chose to walk away and to pretend you are broke, miserable, poor and whatever the narcissists would like to think about you. Everything the narcissists say to you (or others about you) is only to trigger you on purpose even they know the truth the same as you do. While you are "fighting for a justice and truth", to find a solution or any other reason the normal human would fight for, they fight with you for completely different reasons - to extract the narcissistic supply from you and because they are pathologically bored and they do not know what to do in their free time other than triggering people with nonsense. There is no other reason or mystery. The world of the narcissists is very small and it consists only of hunting the narcissistic supply like a junkies. If the narcissists want to think you are a pink giraffe with two heads and chair instead of eyes, let them live their disordered delusional world. It does not matter what they think. Deep down inside of them they know you are right, they know the truth. And you know the truth too. What only matter is what you think about yourself.
Every time you would like to waste another minute on fighting the narcissists, ask yourself a practical and rational question: What I would be able to build in one month if I work hard on bettering my life? Now also answer this question for yourself too: and what I would achieve with nonsense fights with the narcissists in one month? You do not have time to build your life you want and deserve if you let the narcissists to suck your time into their black hole. Always check on your time management if you are giving your time and energy into the right direction. Always go where you have an energy of creating, not energy of destroying. Lets say you arguing about nonsense with the narcissists for one hour. Did you resolve anything? The answer will be always no because because there is never a resolution with the narcissists. Now go to the kitchen and bake for one hour. What is the result of that hour? A nice smelling cake. Be brave. The narcissists are very destructive energy, they never create anything because they are too busy with spending time with nonsense. Every minute you give to the narcissists is minute you threw out of the window and you stole this minute from yourself. You are wasting time on the narcissists that you can invest in the meaningful activities and people who would really appreciate you and treat you right. Time is the most valuable thing we have on this planet. It should not be used in vain. The narcissists know it very well. They want to cone you of your greatest gift have been given on this planet. Your time.
One of the main traits of narcissism is pathological envy and jealousy. Always stay low key in your life. Keep your life private. Find a discipline to put your ego aside. Do not share your next steps with the narcissists, never share your new accomplishments, your new relationship, new car, your new job position that is paid better. Not when you are in a war with the narcissists. Otherwise they will become jealous and envy and you will activate their obsession over you and their desire to destroy you. Be invisible as possible, live your life low key and move quietly. The cemetery is full of people who preferred their ego trip before their best interest. One must remain cold in creating strategies when he or she found himself or herself in the war with the narcissists. If you share your good news with the narcissists, they will go after everything that is dear to you - they will go after your money, your beloved, your possessions, your resources, etc. And they will not stop until they will take it away from you or destroy it completely. If you accomplished to raise from the ashes and you managed to make your life better, enjoy it quietly with a mochito in your hand on the sunny beach without telling them. Your life is nobody´s business. Protect your life. Protect your energy. Bragging might feel good for your ego for 5 min but in a long run you are putting your whole future in a danger. You can even read in the Bible that the pride comes before the fall.
Rather than throwing your success into their face on social medias, analyze the core of the reason why you want to do so and heal the unhealed part of you. If you still have a feeling that you have to impress someone, you still have wounds to be healed - feeling of unworthiness inside of you that needs your attention. You do not need to prove anything to disordered people or to anybody else, what you really needs is more inner work on yourself and self love. The moment you will fully love yourself, you will not give a fuck what other people think about you at all. Rather than wasting your time on nonsense, use your energy on (re)building your life and focus on more practical goals that will bring a positive energy into your life. Focus only on what makes you happy, healthy and productive.
If you have the need to prove your worth to disordered narcissistic people and play their sick and nonsense mind games, it means you do not need to prove them your worth (you are already worthy since the first day on this planet), you need to do your inner work, you need to work on self love. The fight with the narcissists will not help you with your feelings of not being worthy. The narcissists know you are worthy very well. Its their pathological envy and insecurities that make them to pretend in front of you that they see you unworthy. They know you are worthy to the level they are envious about how worthy you are. Thats actually the real reason why they abused you and attacked your self-esteem in the first place. The real reason was their insecurities about your worthiness because they feel unworthy.So, the only person in this game who need to realize you are worthy its you. The narcissists already know this.
Re-shift the focus from the narcissists and turn inwards to work on your unhealed parts of your soul. Work on yourself because there is nothing to work on your relationship with the narcissists. When you argue with the narcissists, you do not argue with a healthy people, you argue with their disorder. The narcissists can only trigger you if you have wounds. The narcissists are like the sharks, they can smell blood from miles away. If you are bleeding, you are a prey. By healing your wounds you stop bleeding and thus you stop to be prey therefore there will be no more attraction between the predator and the prey. The moment you stop to be a prey, the predator has no business to be with you. They will swim away. Instead of being their complice in cutting your wounds wide open, work for yourself on healing those wounds. Stop playing the victim role as you are taking your power away by playing such a role. You are powerful being, you just have to realize this.
Playing games with the narcissists will only drag you on the low level just where the narcissists are. And this is not an effective tactic neither nice place to be. The correct tactic is not to stay in a low vibrations chasing your own tail for years being stuck in the "Crazyland" but rather to make everything in order to pull yourself towards higher vibrations because thats the level where no narcissists can follow you as they are low vibration entities with lot of darkness inside of them. The moment you pull yourself up to the higher vibrations, the narcissists will automatically disappear from your life.
The narcissists have a crab mentality. They will always try to pull the victims back into the bucket when they see that the victim is trying to escape the bucket. Their greatest trick is that they create this illusion that you have to stay in the bucket with them. They fear that you would go to the better place and they will still stay in the dark bucket. Be brave, do not let the emotions to over-write your logical thinking. The narcissists are master manipulators and their specialty is provoking and triggering emotions in other people. Your ticket out of the bucket is to stay calm, collected and cold and stop playing their game. They know very well that they are able to manipulate other people only when people are over-emotional thus they use provocation as a tactic to make the victims over-emotional. People who put the logical thinking first and stay calm and collected are much more effective to deal with the narcissists and removing themselves from the narcissist´s realm. Put your emotions aside because war with the narcissists is not the right place to operate from your emotions. Now its the time to think solely through your brain in a very cold way. Make a plan, then proceed with the plan like a solder. Do not let your emotions to be used against you like a weapon. There is no narcissists standing in your way, its actually you standing in your own way by getting embroiled in the fantasy, web of lies and illusions of the narcissists and the element that keeps you on the loop is your emotional reactions. Listen to your intuition and logical thinking how to get out of the cycle without use of your emotions.
Rather than spending years in a cycle of nonsense fights with the disordered narcissists that leads you nowhere and with no positive results for you, stop to focus on the narcissists and start to focus solely on pulling yourself to the higher vibrations. Start to work on yourself and on your life. Do everything to make your life better each day. Do what makes you happy rather than what makes you miserable. Do every activity that makes you feel good. Focus on healing your wounds and your "inner child". Stop being a complice to the narcissists of your own misery. They use your anger stage of healing just to keep you in the same place on the loop, they trigger you over and over again on purpose because they know its the only way to keep you with them on the level of low vibrations ("I will just to prove this one point to the narcissist... just to justify this one reason .... just to prove one more point .... just to ....") This would go on and on forever as the narcissists do not have limits so the limits must be set by you. The more they manage to take you off your balance and make you emotionally lose it, the more you will be stuck in the narcissistic web. The only purpose for the narcissists to keep you in this situation is to become their source of negative narcissistic supply so they can feed of your negative reaction, your negative emotions give them fuel and energize them while it is exhausting you from your life force. And thats the only reason why they do it. To regulate their own emotions through you. They are fishing for the energy because they are the emotional and energy vampires. If you keep fighting this nonsense war, one day you wake up and you realize that there is no more time left, that you spent years on fighting a nonsense instead of living.
You do not need to even move finger to proceed with a revenge on the narcissists. They are their own revenge. They have personality disorder. They are not real, their world is an illusion. They are basically non existent entities. They left their minds, souls and bodies years ago and what you see is only an empty shell with a mask on. They have been traumatized in their childhood and they never managed to heal and now they are these empty shells with voids inside of their souls and no emotions in their hearts always operating from place of lack hiding behind some surreal nonexistent mask they created in their childhood out of their imagination because they are full of overwhelming shame, insecurities and fears not being capable to love others and receive love. What possibly can be worst karma than this? They also have compulsive repetition syndrome which keeps them stuck forever in the hamster´s wheel unable to change, mature, grow, heal and move on. They do not need your punishment or revenge. They are already very miserable. Move on and thank to the Universe that you have been blessed to be the empath and to have capacity to love and heal. Not everybody on this planet get this privilege.
Your anger is used against you like a weapon. Are you willing to lose your life and health because of your anger or you would rather want to experience good health and have a chance for a better life through your peace? When you keep to stare into the dark abyss long enough, it can happen that one day the abyss will start to look inside of you. Monsters are always being created by monsters. Make sure you will not become a monster in the process. Always remind yourself who you truly are behind all of that anger and hate. When you let your negative emotions to overhelm you, slowly you will become like them. Always remind yourself that you are a light, you belong to light and make sure the narcissists will not change you into the dark entity. We always attract what we focus the most on. If you focus mostly on the negative energy, you will attract the negative energy. If you focus mostly on positive energy, you will attract more positive energy. The goal of your healing journey should be reducing the negative energy so you make space more of the positive energy to come to your life. That´s the only right way to go. Staying in the low and dark energies will not bring any positive results.
If you chose light, peace and good life, you chose to walk away and to pretend you are broke, miserable, poor and whatever the narcissists would like to think about you. Everything the narcissists say to you (or others about you) is only to trigger you on purpose even they know the truth the same as you do. While you are "fighting for a justice and truth", to find a solution or any other reason the normal human would fight for, they fight with you for completely different reasons - to extract the narcissistic supply from you and because they are pathologically bored and they do not know what to do in their free time other than triggering people with nonsense. There is no other reason or mystery. The world of the narcissists is very small and it consists only of hunting the narcissistic supply like a junkies. If the narcissists want to think you are a pink giraffe with two heads and chair instead of eyes, let them live their disordered delusional world. It does not matter what they think. Deep down inside of them they know you are right, they know the truth. And you know the truth too. What only matter is what you think about yourself.
Every time you would like to waste another minute on fighting the narcissists, ask yourself a practical and rational question: What I would be able to build in one month if I work hard on bettering my life? Now also answer this question for yourself too: and what I would achieve with nonsense fights with the narcissists in one month? You do not have time to build your life you want and deserve if you let the narcissists to suck your time into their black hole. Always check on your time management if you are giving your time and energy into the right direction. Always go where you have an energy of creating, not energy of destroying. Lets say you arguing about nonsense with the narcissists for one hour. Did you resolve anything? The answer will be always no because because there is never a resolution with the narcissists. Now go to the kitchen and bake for one hour. What is the result of that hour? A nice smelling cake. Be brave. The narcissists are very destructive energy, they never create anything because they are too busy with spending time with nonsense. Every minute you give to the narcissists is minute you threw out of the window and you stole this minute from yourself. You are wasting time on the narcissists that you can invest in the meaningful activities and people who would really appreciate you and treat you right. Time is the most valuable thing we have on this planet. It should not be used in vain. The narcissists know it very well. They want to cone you of your greatest gift have been given on this planet. Your time.
One of the main traits of narcissism is pathological envy and jealousy. Always stay low key in your life. Keep your life private. Find a discipline to put your ego aside. Do not share your next steps with the narcissists, never share your new accomplishments, your new relationship, new car, your new job position that is paid better. Not when you are in a war with the narcissists. Otherwise they will become jealous and envy and you will activate their obsession over you and their desire to destroy you. Be invisible as possible, live your life low key and move quietly. The cemetery is full of people who preferred their ego trip before their best interest. One must remain cold in creating strategies when he or she found himself or herself in the war with the narcissists. If you share your good news with the narcissists, they will go after everything that is dear to you - they will go after your money, your beloved, your possessions, your resources, etc. And they will not stop until they will take it away from you or destroy it completely. If you accomplished to raise from the ashes and you managed to make your life better, enjoy it quietly with a mochito in your hand on the sunny beach without telling them. Your life is nobody´s business. Protect your life. Protect your energy. Bragging might feel good for your ego for 5 min but in a long run you are putting your whole future in a danger. You can even read in the Bible that the pride comes before the fall.
Rather than throwing your success into their face on social medias, analyze the core of the reason why you want to do so and heal the unhealed part of you. If you still have a feeling that you have to impress someone, you still have wounds to be healed - feeling of unworthiness inside of you that needs your attention. You do not need to prove anything to disordered people or to anybody else, what you really needs is more inner work on yourself and self love. The moment you will fully love yourself, you will not give a fuck what other people think about you at all. Rather than wasting your time on nonsense, use your energy on (re)building your life and focus on more practical goals that will bring a positive energy into your life. Focus only on what makes you happy, healthy and productive.
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