1. Only when you lose everything, you can do everything (Transformation from pigeon to eagle)
The collapse of your whole life and the loss of everything in the fire took a lot from you. But on the other hand, somehow it gave you the wings to fly. The most dangerous people in the world are those who lost everything. Because now they can start over from scratch and use those wings to fly as high as the eagle. Remember, in order to fly like the eagle, you have to stop being a pigeon. Only eagles can fly above the clouds.
2. Everybody shows their true face and intention when you hit your rock bottom.
Only when you hit the rock bottom, you will be able to see the real face of every single person in your life. It seems that rock bottoms are like the washing machines. They will wash your life from every single dirt. The rock bottoms are like the brooms, it will sweep up dust from every corner of your life. You will notice that everybody who used big words in the past about how they have your back, the moment you hit the rock bottom, a lot of those people disappear like a fart from your life leaving you bleeding on the floor and they will not offer you help, not even an uplifting word. This is the best time of your life to carefully watch all moves of everybody in your life, because your rock bottom will remove their masks and you will clearly see who is your true friend and who is not. And maaan, this discovery is a shock therapy! However, it is always a good thing to exactly know who is who rather than living in an illusion for the rest of your life. Those who were not there for you when you have been down or even those who were too quick to kick you while you have been down are gone because you removed their asses out of your life as they do not deserve to sit behind your table and eat from your plate once your life start to be good again. Slowly you (re)build your inner circle and now you have only real people in your life.
3. It taught you to set healthy boundaries with all people in your life.
Its actually a good lesson to experience toxic relationships because it will make you appreciate those healthy much more. Today you already know how it feels to be used and abused in the toxic relationships, so you are not willing anymore to compromise with toxicity and bad energies in your life. You have no problem anymore to say immediate goodbye to people who are not vibrating on your energy level and who treats you like a doormat. Today you set strict healthy boundaries with every person entering your life so they know what exactly you will never tolerate. Today, you know how to stand up for yourself and whats is your value.
4. Out with the negative energy, in with the fresh new positive energy.
Once you cleaned your life from fake friends and toxic people out, you created more space for healthy people with a good intention and a positive energy to come in. Today you know that you deserve to be surrounded only with people who are there for you in bad days and who brings the good vibes during the good days. The soul family and true friends for life! The healthy relationships will make you feel appreciated, healthy, joyful and this time you make sure you create only a meaningful relationships that are not shallow and fake. The quality of your life is increasing with the quality of the people you are surrounding yourself with.
5. You know yourself now and thats a crucial step for having a happy life.
Holy cow, the toxic relationships will push every single button inside of you, they will take you through every single roller coaster in "Crazyland"! But the good thing about it is that you know yourself better now. Today, you exactly know who you are, what you like or not like, what you tolerate or not tolerate, you are aware of your unhealed parts inside of you so you can work on them and become the greatest version of yourself, you become aware also of many great qualities and strength you did not even know that were sleeping inside of you. You become a skilled sailor because you trained in a wild storm. True happiness starting always from properly knowing yourself and who you are.
6. Being burnt is always a catalyst of a great changes in your life.
After your whole world was shaken with a speed and intensity of a tornado and your life felt apart like a house made of paper cards, it made you evaluate every single aspect of your existence. Thank to the toxic relationships you realized that actually a lot of things needed a change in your life already long time ago. It helped you to realize that you can´t avoid this fact anymore and you have to change it by yourself because nobody is coming to do it for you (Nice try, fairy-tales!). Today, you have better clarity of your life and you are a better version of yourself.
7. Toxic relationships taught you to be more authentic and true to yourself.
Lets be honest here. We can´t put all blame only on a toxicity of others. We all have some toxicity in each of us to some degree. We all are to some degree toxic to other people around us. As the toxic relationships handed you a mirror and it pushed you to look into your own reflection, you became more aware of your own bullshits. Today, you crave to meet more healthy people and today you already know that in order to be able to meet them, you yourself need to be healthier and more positive to attract your tribe. After the bad experiences you become... yes, the greatest version of yourself :)
3. It taught you to set healthy boundaries with all people in your life.
Its actually a good lesson to experience toxic relationships because it will make you appreciate those healthy much more. Today you already know how it feels to be used and abused in the toxic relationships, so you are not willing anymore to compromise with toxicity and bad energies in your life. You have no problem anymore to say immediate goodbye to people who are not vibrating on your energy level and who treats you like a doormat. Today you set strict healthy boundaries with every person entering your life so they know what exactly you will never tolerate. Today, you know how to stand up for yourself and whats is your value.
4. Out with the negative energy, in with the fresh new positive energy.
Once you cleaned your life from fake friends and toxic people out, you created more space for healthy people with a good intention and a positive energy to come in. Today you know that you deserve to be surrounded only with people who are there for you in bad days and who brings the good vibes during the good days. The soul family and true friends for life! The healthy relationships will make you feel appreciated, healthy, joyful and this time you make sure you create only a meaningful relationships that are not shallow and fake. The quality of your life is increasing with the quality of the people you are surrounding yourself with.
5. You know yourself now and thats a crucial step for having a happy life.
Holy cow, the toxic relationships will push every single button inside of you, they will take you through every single roller coaster in "Crazyland"! But the good thing about it is that you know yourself better now. Today, you exactly know who you are, what you like or not like, what you tolerate or not tolerate, you are aware of your unhealed parts inside of you so you can work on them and become the greatest version of yourself, you become aware also of many great qualities and strength you did not even know that were sleeping inside of you. You become a skilled sailor because you trained in a wild storm. True happiness starting always from properly knowing yourself and who you are.
6. Being burnt is always a catalyst of a great changes in your life.
After your whole world was shaken with a speed and intensity of a tornado and your life felt apart like a house made of paper cards, it made you evaluate every single aspect of your existence. Thank to the toxic relationships you realized that actually a lot of things needed a change in your life already long time ago. It helped you to realize that you can´t avoid this fact anymore and you have to change it by yourself because nobody is coming to do it for you (Nice try, fairy-tales!). Today, you have better clarity of your life and you are a better version of yourself.
7. Toxic relationships taught you to be more authentic and true to yourself.
Lets be honest here. We can´t put all blame only on a toxicity of others. We all have some toxicity in each of us to some degree. We all are to some degree toxic to other people around us. As the toxic relationships handed you a mirror and it pushed you to look into your own reflection, you became more aware of your own bullshits. Today, you crave to meet more healthy people and today you already know that in order to be able to meet them, you yourself need to be healthier and more positive to attract your tribe. After the bad experiences you become... yes, the greatest version of yourself :)
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