The narcissists are skilled mental acrobats who always try to
over-write the logical thinking of the victims with the emotions. They
will take their
victims through the verbal roller coasters and use their tongues to
psychologically and emotionally abuse their victims. The "word salad" is
a manipulative tactic to take the victims off their balance. The
ultimate goal of the world salad is to confuse, control, destabilize,
invalidate and frustrate the victims. Talking to the narcissists often
feels like talking to the brick wall in the middle of the mental
institution. With their emotional intelligence of the toddlers, the narcissists
suck the victims into the endless arguments that last hours or months
without any resolution for the discussed issue. The narcissists talk a lot without actually saying anything. They are generators of random words.
The
narcissists often connect the words in a very nonsense and
disorganized way similar to patients who suffer from disorganized
schizophrenia or patients who suffer from disorganized thoughts
disorder. Their answers to the questions are often unrelated and they
shift from one topic to another on a speed of a thunder bolt. They often
say illogical things, their thoughts seem disorganized and sentences
not connected to each other. The verbal communication is spiced with
covert insults and impressive words from the side of the narcissists who
are boosting their own egos by putting the victims down. Once the
discussion is over, the victims can´t even remember what was the
argument originally about and they feel even more confused than they felt before
the discussion. The conversations with the narcissists are always
spinning in the endless circles of nonsense. The more the
narcissists talk, the less the victims understand. In the end, the
victims feel exhausted and numb and they leave the conversation with the
brain fog. The narcissists use the word salad against the victims on
purpose. They do not usually have any issue with logical stuff, they play
dumb and start to manipulate only when confronted.
When
the narcissists can´t find any reasonable arguments, they usually bring
up unrelated random things or things from past to shift the focus from the narcissists to
the victims. The discussions with the narcissists is a power struggle
when in the end, the victims are always blamed for everything. The
narcissists are the skillful clowns and every time the victims try to
resolve any issue with them, the victims end up in the narcissist´s
circus.
As
the narcissists avoid to take any responsibility at all costs for their
actions, they often use "DARVO" technique ("Deny, Attack, and Reverse
Victim and Offender") in a verbal communication to shift the blame to
the victims and twist the reality in order to make the real victims seem
like the abusers and the abusers seem like the victims. The "DARVO"
stands for:
Deny the behavior
Attack the individual doing the confronting
Reverse the roles of victim and offender.
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