Duping delight, narcissistic smirk / 4 simple DIY tests to uncover the narcissists: The empathy test, the vulnerability test, the eyes test, the smile test (Micro & macro facial expressions of the narcissists & non verbal psychology)

The more authentic you become, the more you will be able to recognize falseness in other people.

To recognize and uncover the narcissists is not an easy task. They can fool even professional therapists, investigators and the full blown psychopaths can fool even the lie detector (because the psychopaths have no emotions, nothing triggers them and where are no triggers, there are no physical sensations that would make the lie detector work adequately). Their superficial charm can fool even the psychiatrists with many years of experience in the medical field. The danger lying in the cluster B type of the personality disorders is that they look like everybody else. The narcissists are lunatics who wear "a mask of sanity" fooling people that they are sane and normal. Their craziness is not obvious to their surrounding. Which makes them even million times more dangerous because this helps them to blend among normal people easily.

If you ever fell for the manipulations of the narcissists and now you are bashing yourself with how you could be so stupid to fall for this, make yourself a favor, don´t blame yourself. You are not stupid. You are intelligent, you have been just uneducated on narcissism. But now you learn, now you will know better so will you do better. If some professionals have a hard times to uncover the narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths, you as a regular person without a diploma in psychology has no chance. We are not here to bashing ourselves about the past, we are here to learn to do better in our future. It was not your fault that you are a nice, kind and loving person and someone took an advantage of your amazing qualities. Please, continue to be a beautiful soul. Don´t let the dark entities to turn you into them. You don´t belong to the darkness. Nurture the warm feelings inside of your heart. Maintain the light inside of your soul. Just learn to recognize the wrong people from the right people, so next time, you can give your special gifts of empathy to someone worthy and loving who will appreciate everything you are giving to them.

The narcissists are very good at hiding their pathology. The more covert they are, the more they are capable to hide their narcissism. If you are not educated on narcissism and you don´t know what to look for, you can easily overlook the red flags even for years or decades. The only requirement for the below tests is that you have to spend some time around the narcissists and to be in the close relationships with them to have a chance to uncover them. If you are meeting the narcissists only for a coffee once a month, then you will think they are the most saint and sweet people under the sun for the rest of your life. The narcissists usually show their true face only to one or max. few people who are closest to them (for example, their spouse and their children). This is why it is so difficult for the victims to prove to people around them that they have been abused because the abusers are different in public than they are behind the closed doors when they are alone with their victims. Here are some simple "DIY tests" to uncover the narcissists:

"The vulnerability test" to uncover the narcissists in your life:

Are you not sure if some person in your life is a narcissist? Try this simple test: Manufacture your own life crisis. For example, tell the people you feel might be the narcissists that you have been diagnosed with some illness and you lost your job. If they abandon and ghost you the very next day in a most cruel heartless way, those people are most probably the narcissists. And not only that, the true narcissists will most likely take a chance to extract the negative narcissistic supply from you before those individuals will be gone because the narcissists have a tendency to make every bad situation even worst. If they see your situation is bad, they will make it 10 times worst. In fact, if you are having the bad times, your bad times were created and manufactured by the narcissists. When you have the good times, the narcissists can´t stand to see you happy, they will manufacture situations and crisis to destroy your good times and replace it with the bad times. They will knock you down and once you are down, they will start kicking you while you are down because its not enough for them to "only" bring you down. They must "finish" you. They consider "the mission" to be successful and completed when you are barely breathing. In their eyes, the best option would be if you are dead. Just because the narcissists did not kill you, it does not mean they are not capable to kill. All cluster B type of the personality disorders (narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, borderline, etc.) are prone to either kill their victims or push them into the suicides. It´s their specialty. When you show your vulnerability, the narcissist will "narcissistically attack" you. They can´t help themselves, they have to take an advantage of other people´s vulnerabilities. The narcissists usually abandon and attack you when you are the most vulnerable or when you are at your lowest point in your life - when you grieve a loss, when you lost your job, when you experienced miscarriage, when you get sick, etc. It´s like the people´s vulnerabilities is the honey and they are the bees. The narcissists are highly attracted to pain (both inflicting pain on others and receiving pain), they are sadists, they are the sharks. When the sharks smell the bleeding wound, they can´t help themselves to go after you. They can´t resist to attack your emotions every-time when the opportunity raises. Your emotions are not safe with the narcissists. The narcissists are like the high school bullies.

Another great test is to reveal them your greatest fear or something you are insecure about on purpose. Let´s say you are insecure about your hair and you confessed to the narcissists about this insecurity. If the person is a true narcissist, in no time, the person will start to make you insecure about your hair with backhanded compliments, covert insults and they will start to bring it up on every possible occasion. They just can´t help it. If they know what is upsetting you, making you feel sad, making you feel hurt, they will use it against you. They will start to covertly insult your hair and in the same time (on purpose - make no mistake) they will start telling you how their coworker has the most beautiful hair in the world. If you tell the narcissists that you decided to change your sleeping routine and from now on you want to get to bed earlier, they will wake you up in the middle of the night just to fight over some nonsense that came out of nowhere and that does not even make sense just to keep you awake. The narcissists constantly exhaust you on purpose and even don´t let you sleep because people who are exhausted and tired have tendency to give up on themselves and submit to the abuse easier, the victims just hand the control of their life into the hands of the narcissists out of exhaustion and tiredness. It´s way easier to abuse and control a tired person. If you politely ask them not to send you messages after 11 PM, they will bombard you with the messages every hour till 4 AM on purpose. Notice how every-time you tell them that something is annoying you or bothering you, they will increase doing it more often just to throw you off your balance. If they messaged you before only 3 times a night, now when they know it is bothering you, they will start to message you even more frequently, 10 times a night, just to piss you off.

You know that someone is normal when they do not take an advantage of your bad unfortunate situation, your pain, your weaknesses, your fears, your vulnerabilities and your insecurities. Your emotions are safe with normal people. The normal people either help you, support you or if they don´t help you or support you, at least they will completely let you be or at least sympathize with you. The normal people will not hurt you, not taking a pleasure of seeing you in pain and not agonize you on purpose. If you uncover the pattern of someone constantly taking advantage of your pain, weaknesses, fears and vulnerabilities, you most likely deal with the narcissists.

Only the narcissists have the need to extract the negative narcissistic supply from you (through the entire relationships but especially when they are discarding you in the end of the relationships). When you go through a break up with a normal people, the normal people just leave your life in a human decent way and that´s it. Sometimes it happens that normal people leave from your life and it´s definitely not a good feeling, it can hurt for sometime but they will not feed of you like the dark vampires till you´re half dead. You will not need to enter the therapy to work through the PTSD, you will not be pushed on the verge of a suicide and spend years and years with healing after dealing with normal people. On the other hand, the narcissists are very malicious vicious individuals. They are Sat_an´s children. The break ups with the narcissists is nothing like the regular break ups. Its always an abuse. Break up and abuse are two completely different things. They will take all of your secrets like a knife and stub you with them in your back. They will manufacture situations where they will confront you with your fears on purpose for their own personal entertainment and make your fears 10 times more scary and 10 times bigger. They will psychologically bully you and emotionally abuse you, then they will take a popcorn, sit on the couch and have a fun watching you suffer and crumble.  If you reveal them your dark or deepest secrets and traumatic events, they will collect those data and use it against you later on. If they see you are in a pain, they will take a salt and sprinkle your wounds with that salt. If you confess to them with your weaknesses, they will use this knowledge to turn you against yourself or to destroy you. If you tell them what you are insecure about, they will take an advantage of this information. The narcissists are extremely nasty individuals. While normal people has always a good intention towards you, the narcissists (even they are hiding it behind the mask of fake niceness) have always a bad intention towards you.

When people leaving the relationships with the narcissists, they are leaving those relationships super insecure, with destroyed self-esteem, with pile of anxieties and deep depression. Narcissism is a fixed maladaptive disorder so they are not capable to change but they change you. The narcissists turn even normal healthy light-hearted happy people into crazy desperate sick broken broke angry and sad zombies. This is something that would NEVER happen to you when dealing with the normal people.

"The empathy test to uncover the narcissists in your life":

This test is easy. Just be an authentic natural empath. That´s it. The beauty of empathy is that the real empathy can´t be faked. You can try to fake the empathy for some time but there will come the moment when real eyes will realize real lies. The point of this test is to quickly surprise the narcissists with the questions, gestures, emotions that only empaths are capable to proceed with. During the test, you have to operate solely from EQ (emotional intelligence) and you have to completely exclude IQ (cognitive intelligence) from testing. The narcissists have no to low EQ and they posses only IQ, so you have to remove their "IQ GPS" and force them to present themselves solely through their EQ. Don´t throw at them anything that can be resolved with the logic, throw at them only what can be resolved with the emotions. Something no-brainer. The narcissists are the thinkers, they are not the feelers. You have to take them by surprise so they do not have any time to observe you, study you and then mirror you. As a result, you will see their confused faces. When you bombard the narcissists with the emotional intelligence, they feel overwhelmed, clueless and lost. They can even react harshly and lash at you. Or they will feel irritated and want right away to silence you and move on. Because the narcissists are very shallow individuals, their emotions are shallow. That´s why they are not capable to sit down behind the table with you, talk openly being vulnerable with you, be patience working through the issues because they are pathologically immature and shallow. Their emotions are under-developed and that´s why they are not capable to show you maturity and deep emotions (even if they want to), they just don´t posses this capacity. It´s like being angry to 5 years old child for not dealing appropriate with electricity bill. It´s just a child. Children does not understand adult´s stuff. The children might pretend they do for a while but then they will become frustrated and bored with these adults stuff and they will go back to their kid´s way. If you really want to understand the narcissists, go to the park and watch little kids playing. Or watch how the teenagers behave. And you will know everything about the narcissists that you need to know. The narcissists deep inside of them are really only kids and teenagers. For the empaths, EQ comes so natural and automatic. That´s why the empaths can react so promptly when you throw at them any emotion. Because, the empaths do not need any time to observe others, they just organically naturally operate from EQ because it is in them. The empaths do not feel frustrated or angry when asked to show their emotions or to talk about them. They feel at "home" with their emotions. They can talk effortlessly about what they feel, how they feel and why they feel it. The narcissists are technically robots who need to stare at the empaths to study them so they can repeat after the empaths (known as "mirroring") because they lack of empathy. Anything connected to empathy and EQ is alien to the narcissists. The narcissists can understand human emotions only through IQ. If you mentally stimulate the narcissists and if the narcissists posses at least an average IQ or a higher IQ, they do not have any issue to react back promptly and even without irritation but when you throw the human emotions on them, with their low to no emotional intelligence, they have no chance to interact with you, they are "the emotional dum - dum - dumbs". The more they are closer to the psychopathy on the scale, the more they will be incapacitated to react. Watch and observe their reaction. Their reaction is very telling.

If you want to see how emotionally clueless narcissist look like, I suggest you to watch THIS 6 MIN. VIDEO by Youtube channel "ITV" about the narcissist and psychopath Paris Bennett. Paris killed his own little sister and he is serving a lifetime in a prison. A journalist visited and interviewed him in the prison. The journalist asked him a simple question: "Do you think you understand what love is? I mean ... are you capable?". Listen to what Paris answered (his answer starts at 2:05 min). From his answer it is obvious that this narcissist and psychopath is just beating around the bush, he does not have empathy and that´s why he is not capable to describe love. Because he does not feel it. Caught you! The narcissists do not understand emotions, especially positive emotions, especially love. They can express rage, anger, hate but they are very bad at expressing positive emotions such as love, joy, peace. For the narcissists the easiest emotion to express is anger because it is the most primitive emotion. That´s why the first emotion the little babies express is crying being angry. It´s how they terrorize their mothers and force them to fulfill the baby´s needs and wants. Empathy is learnt behavior that we learn over time from our parents so anything connected to empathy will come later after we learn to angrily cry. Because the narcissists are emotionally stunted, their emotions are very primitive and limited (mostly, they will show you only anger). They lack of empathy and any emotions that comes from empathy. They are even bad at at least pretending the positive emotions because the narcissists are too full of negative emotions such as rage, anger and hate. For example, if the victims force the narcissists to express a positive emotion (something connected to warm love, genuine laugh and jokes, empathy), the narcissists get annoyed, frustrated and angry. The narcissists do not understand other people´s emotions. But not only that. They do not understand their own emotions either. The narcissists expressing the frustration comes mostly from not understanding the emotions. Showing the anger it´s the easiest reaction you can produce.

"The eyes test" to uncover the narcissists in your life:

Another great test to uncover the narcissists is "the eyes test". During the test, the empaths need to use their intuition and knowledge to observe the eyes of the narcissists. There is a reason why the saying goes like: "The eyes are windows to the soul". You can observe 4 types of expressions in the eyes of the narcissists - the childish (denial) eyes, the angry eyes, the crazy eyes and the empty eyes. 

If you are an awakened empath, you are very well connected to your emotions and intuition. The awakened empath can literary walk down the street, look in the eyes of every stranger that pass them by on the street and say which person is another empath and who is not (who is a narcissist, sociopath and psychopath). For the empath to meet the full blown dark triad psychopath with bad energy (who is basically on the very opposite side of the scale of empathy and consciousness than the empath so the difference is very recognizable) gives the empath literary a chills and goosebumps. Its a real strong physical sensation. Empaths recognize each other too. By simply looking each other in the eyes. The empaths have "that thing" in the eyes. Their eyes are soft, their eyes posses depth, warmth and wisdom, they are lively with the sparks and light. Simply, the empaths have empathy written all over their eyes. Sometimes, when the empaths recognize each other, they even give this little smile to each other. Not a flirting one. Just "that smile" that says "I recognized you". The narcissists also recognize each other (consciously or subconsciously). That´s why they often stick together (birds of a feather flock together) and go against the empaths in groups. Or they recognize each other and run away from each other like their lives depend on it because the narcissist´s favorite snack are the empaths as the empaths give them what they want and need while the narcissists are here only to take and never give so narcissist is not very useful for another narcissist.

As the narcissists buried their emotions deep down inside of them where they can´t access those emotions anymore due to their narcissistic trauma (or they have been born as natural psychopaths without the emotions), the light in their eyes is not present or it is gone. They have zombie like eyes. They are empty shells and the eyes are reflection of their souls. When you look inside of their eyes, they are lifeless. They have eyes of a predator. Look in the eyes of the lion and then look in the eyes of the narcissists (especially those who are closer to psychopathy) and you will get the same feeling from both of them. In the eyes of the narcissists you find nothing because nobody is home. They only have an empty predatory stare. Great examples of the empty eyes and the predatory stare are the eyes of the killers Ted Bundy, Jodi Arias and Paris Bennett. Their vibration, energy and "that thing" in their eyes make you feel like you want to run for your life from them (even without knowing they are the killers) because you feel intuitively in danger. The narcissists have "bad eyes" and bad energy.

 Killer Ted Bundy vs. Lion

The typical for the narcissists (especially the covert narcissists) is their bottled up rage and a secret anger/hate towards people in general or certain people. This is where their passive - aggressive behavior is coming from. They are very deceitful people, they smile at you while they hate you. Due to their suppressed rage, they have angry eyes. They are full of bottled up rage, contempt and disgust. This can be visible in their eyes especially in the devaluation and discard stage when the narcissists devaluate their victims - the narcissists look at their victims with hate. If the victims of the narcissistic abuse review the old photos with their narcissistic exes from the period of the devaluation (the period around end of their relationships), they will clearly see the way the narcissists have been looking at them with eyes full of contempt and disgust. A great example of the typical covert narcissist and his angry eyes is Chris Watts who killed his pregnant wife and his two little children (photos below). 

"The smile test" to uncover the narcissists in your life:

You know that the smile is fake and not genuine when the upper half of the face does not match the bottom part of the face when a person smiles. The fake smile is very forced and it reminds about the primates showing their teeth signalling their intention to attack and bite. When people smiles, they signal that they are coming in peace. But when primates smiles, it signals that they are above to attack you. The primate´s smile is basically the last warning before they jump at you and bite you. Most of the people thinks that when they see monkeys smiling that it means that the monkeys are happy while in fact, in most of the cases, it is actually the opposite - the monkeys are expressing the upset, anger and they warn you before they attack. This is exactly how the covert narcissists smile, they do not smile, they just show their teeth. Sometimes, watching the covert narcissists smiling is scary because they look like the angry monkeys. The expression in their eyes does not match their mouth/smile. While their mouth is smiling, the eyes remind dead. Their eyes do not smile. No matter how hard they try, they can´t fake true empathy. Even the greatest manipulators can manipulate how much they want, but they can´t fake empathy when it comes to their eyes. No way. You can´t have a dead soul and act like you are alive. On the other hand, when normal people smiles, their eyes smile too. That´s how you know its a genuine smile. The reason why the narcissists look so fake when they smile is because the psychology says that you can´t have 2 contrary opposed emotions in the same time. You can´t feel anger/hate/depression/sadness and in the same time to feel happiness/joy. That´s why when the narcissists try to smile, it looks scary and fake. Because they are angry haters trying to fake happiness. Below - photos of primates vs. photos of covert narcissist Chris Watts:

A typical fake narcissistic forced smile and the empty deceitful predatory eyes of a narcissistic killer Patrick Frazee who killed his fiancé by bashing her with a baseball bat:

If you ever watched the documentary movies about serial killers, you can clearly see the craziness in the killer´s eyes. Their eyes are wide open and they look like they are in a manic state of mind. Great examples of crazy eyes are the eyes of a serial killer Aileen Wuornos. The narcissists usually have crazy eyes when they are raging but also when they want to fake and pretend excitement.

Are you interested to learn more about facial micro expressions? Visit Paul Ekman website HERE. 

The narcissists have no sense of humour. Another great test is to see if they can make fun of themselves and if they understand jokes. They are hyper sensitive. They lack of empathy and jokes are related to joyful emotions so they are not experienced well by the narcissists (especially, the more they are close to psychopathy). Try to make a joke and laugh and you will see how they will be freaking out. They will angrily ask you questions like: "Why are you laughing?" They just don´t get the joke. They are also highly paranoid and they will always think you laugh at them because you want to hurt them, your innocent jokes will cause them narcissistic emotional injury. The narcissist´s way of joking is putting other people down with insults. That´s the only time you can see the narcissists laugh. Other than that, they are dry as f_uck. They are not the most genuinely funny people to be around.

"The childish denial eyes test" to uncover the narcissists in your life:

Because the narcissists are children trapped in the adult bodies, they are basically just overgrown kids and you can often see this "childish expression" all over their face.

The perfect example of "the childish denial eyes" are the eyes of the narcissist and "public figure" James Saroka. The whole internet uncovered his narcissism and abuse of his girlfriend and came for him, yet he remained with that "childish denial eyes" expression and his big bright "I am a little kid" smile the whole time his Titanic was publicly sinking. His "happy hippo" reactions were absolutely not matching the seriousness of the situation. Of course, just because someone smiles in an inappropriate moment does not make them automatically the narcissists. Even normal people might smile in an inappropriate situation when they are feeling over-stressed. It´s called "a stress smile". For example, the normal people might smile when the police just informed them that their beloved ones had a car accident and they died. Such a tremendous overwhelming stress might bring an inappropriate reaction. So, how to recognize if someone is normal person or the narcissists when they both can smile in the inappropriate situations? You have to look at that particular situation as a whole. The narcissists are smiling WHILE they are doing bad things to other people. Harming, damaging and hurting others bring them malignant joy. "The stress smile" does not come with malicious actions or bad intentions towards others. When you look in the past and evaluate the history of the particular person, if they are normal, there will be no patterns of malicious evil activities.

The narcissists are emotionally immature on the level of the children so when they have to deal in a mature way with a serious situation, they are absolutely not capable to act, think or feel like the adults. They start to act like the kids or teenagers. James, when confronted by people about his wrong doings, was like a little child smiling bright being disconnected from the reality and lost in his fantasy. It´s exactly this kind of situations when you can uncover the narcissists because their childlike emotionally stunted selves will tell on themselves. It´s like watching a little child trying to fix something that only adults suppose to be fixing and that´s where they show their great limitations. He was self-gaslighting himself and gaslighting people and his girlfriend to make everybody believe that the situation was actually happy rather than negative. It was like watching some mental acrobat in circus show. Seeing the narcissists in denial is very bizarre to watch. It´s almost like they have some secret little box in their brain and every-time they go under the pressure, stress or they are forced to deal with their mess, they just hide part of their emotions to this dark box unable to access those emotions (or memories). They will also hide there their wrong doings. The moment the wrong doings are in the darkness of the secret ignored existent-non existent box, it´s like the wrong doing never happened (in their eyes). As they are little children, when confronted with reality, they are unable to carry the heaviness of the reality, they regress to childhood (the childlike state of mind). They either smile and laugh in the serious situations or they completely deny the reality and slide into the fantasy world to protect themselves from the reality. And they just smile and smile and smile at you with this scary psycho childish big bright smile. The narcissists will never show their vulnerability even if their lives depend on that. It´s almost like their emotions are switch on the lamp and once they are confronted, the switch goes off and there is only the dark now. The narcissism is the reason why people on this planet has to live in emotional dark age. If you see this kind of smile, run. If psychology is not real, then why all psychopaths smile like this?

Smile of a narcissistic serial killer Giggling Granny. Nannie Dos spent decades murdering her relatives and husbands. All together, she killed 11 people in her family. The more dead consciousness someone posses, the more reasons to be happy without reasons, isn´t it? That´s why the most happy people on the planet are those who do not posses emotions, empathy and consciousness. Nothing bothers them. Not even murdering people. They are also always very relaxed (like they have just came back from spa) because they always transfer all their issues and problems onto the shoulders of codependent empaths so the empaths are exhausted fixing the narcissists´s mess and the narcissists are always fresh. Anyway, again, if psychology is not real, then why all psychopaths smile like this?

Another great indicator that someone might be a narcissist (especially the covert narcissist) is that they have the covert arrogance written all over their face. The covert narcissists, even if their face is in a relaxed state, they still keep the childish narcissistic smirk mixed with the covert arrogance on their face most of the time. The narcissists look down on other people because they secretly think that they are better than everyone else. A great example of such a face expression is the face of the narcissistic killer Patrick Frazee who killed his fiancé by bashing her with a baseball bat:

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